Thursday, May 5, 2011

Advice, please

Updated to add:
I just went to thank all of you who left me a comment or emailed me today.  After doing some research on- line and following my instinct, I did make an appointment for her to see the pediatrician.  Thank you for all your kind advice and prayers.  It's always hard to see our children struggle, isn't it?  It just feels good to know we are not alone!
xo

See this picture of my lovely baby girl?  It was taken a couple of months ago, but  she will no longer let me braid her hair, and she will refuse to wear anything with buttons.

It started a couple of years ago with tags in shirts.  Then she started with socks, and we bought her seamless socks and that didn't work.  This winter she wouldn't wear any pants with buttons.  No elastic, no tight straps, nothing that sits on her waist.  Right now it's gotten so bad that she refuses to wear any shoes at all, except a pair of crocs.  She won't wear anything in her hair either, no ponytails, braids, bows...

I don't know if this is a phase or if she is having some serious sensory issues.  She has no other issues...she is affectionate and loving, is a great eater, loves to try new things, is creative and friendly and outgoing. 

Has anyone else out there been through this?  Is it a phase?  Could it be a real sensory issue?  I'm wondering if I should take her to the doctor.  She doesn't even like to go to dance anymore because she doesn't like the way her tap and ballet shoes feel :(  I'd love to hear some advice if you have some!

xo,
Chrissie

12 comments:

Just For Today said...

IM SURE YOU WILL GET MANY HELPFUL COMMENTS FROM CARING FRIENDS WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE VERY SAME THING. I HAVE HAD 4 CHILDREN, AND REALLY HAVEN'T DEALT WITH THIS BEFORE. HOWEVER, NOW THAT THEY ARE OLDER, 26-16, I HAVE REALIZED NOW THAT I WISH I WOULDN'T HAVE MADE SUCH A BIG DEAL OF THINGS, LISTENED TO THEM BETTER, AND JUST TRUST THAT ALL WILL BE FINE. BECAUSE REALLY, IT WILL BE. :)
HUGS FROM MY HEART

archmom said...

She is probably just going through a phase but if you are concerned about things what will it hurt to go talk to someone about it. You don't need to make a big deal about it but just doesn't 'feel right' to you about it, it may not 'feel right' to her either.

Pixie said...

I have had a couple of friends who have had children with these issues. It has a name and warrants a visit to your pediatrician.

http://www.sensory-processing-disorder.com/tactile-defensiveness.html

Desiree said...

my children are not old enough for that yet. But whatever it is I hope you can rely on God to get through it.

heather said...

I have a friend who went through this with her son... here's one of her main blog posts about it so you can compare...
http://heresthediehl.wordpress.com/2008/11/19/challenge/
He was "diagnosed" with and did just a little bit of therapy for what they called "Tactile Defensiveness".
I'd definitely ask your dr about it... if she's really truly uncomfortable I'm sure she'd love some recognition and relief from that!

Doda said...

Hi, I have three kids, 19, 17 and 4-nearly 5. I have found that with a little gentle persuasion- and not giving in to these kind of things, that you can overcome them and it will pass. If you start to give in to it, then it will become a bigger issue for her. Perhaps let her have her way with one thing and say, OK, so we'll go without the braids, but the rest, I'm afraid you'll just have to do what you're told. Or even let her choose the one thing to not have. It is hard, but remember, you're the boss.
That's certainly the way it has worked for us. If I gave in to my little girl with some of her similar things to your little girl, then life would be very awkward for me, and that is why I have persevered. Hope that is of some help to you. xxx

faith from within said...

interesting.....i had a similar (concerning habbits) but not so similar (type of habbits) situation to ask you about with Soph....we should chat later.....

Steph said...

I have a son with Autism who has many sensory issues and even his little brother who is "neuro-typical" but has sensory issues. It might be worth a trip to the Doctor to check it out...
Here's a link to a whole wonderful website about SPD:
www.spdbloggernetwork.com
And the last thing is there is a wonderful clothing company called Soft that makes sensory friendly clothing (and cute too!). We have some of their items for the boys and they both LOVE them- no tags, super soft fabric, flat seams, and just all around sensory friendly. You can find them at:
http://www.softclothing.net/
Hope this helps :)

Sewn With Grace said...

Some of these things sound alot like my daughter who has OCD. Another thing to ask about when you visit the pediatrican. I will be praying for answers for you!

ldlmiller said...

I have four children - my youngest is 16. We went through this in some way with all of our children. Children tend to go through phases with clothes, shoes, food - our oldest had a real issue with socks and seamless socks werent around then. We worked more on things like finding ways to cope and letting them fell empowered. I had to learn what battles were worth pursuing. The main thing I could say - from one mom to another - is. . . you are the mom. No one knows your child better than YOU do. What does your mommy-intuition tell you? Trust yourself - you will know when and if you need to see a doctor. Good luck!

kay morrison said...

chrissie-
first let me tell you that you are a great mom. you were God's first and best choice to parent your children. He will supply all the strength and wisdom you need. i'm sure you know this but just wanted to remind you. :0)

one of my four children had these same issues and we chose to let her wear what felt comfortable and encouraged her to keep trying things that were uncomfortable until she got through these issues. (same plan for eating vegetables) there were many difficult moments...halloween costumes abandoned, unable to play dress up she would just watch her friends, wearing a blue gap dress almost exclusively for a year, unable to play in sprinklers if clothes got wet-disaster! etc. some of it was my own disappointment/fear projected on her...which of course she would then feel. and sometimes it was definitely painful for her. she did work through it, determined to wear things her friends wore and i think that had some great benefit in the self confidence dept.

annie is 20 now. not only did she learn to wear things that were itchy, that confidence and growth enabled her to spend a gap year in africa & live in slum conditions working in an orphanage! lots of itchy uncomfortable situations there!
you are the best expert on your daughter. seek wise advice, pray about it and then follow what He says. big hugs to you.
His-
kay

Erin said...

I would take her to the doctor. Sounds like she might have some sensory processing issues. My son has both tactile and auditory issues and just recently diagnosed with autism. While I hope it is nothing so serious as it is with my son, it's not something to take lightly. I hope your doctor's visit goes well.